Boomer Women--Never Too Old for Toys

The president of Passion Parties, those Tupperware parties for sex accessories, has contributed to a new book for boomer women re-entering the world of dating. According to the press release, Pat Davis "gives advice to help women navigate the difficult process of re-exploring desire and building intimacy with a new lover."

"I am a Baby Boomer," said the 63 year-old Davis. "I know it can be hard for a mature woman to express her romantic needs to her partner, especially if the relationship is new. Passion Parties helps women create a fun dialogue about sensuality with their lovers."

Hmmm---I'm all for passion toys, but do Boomer women need more help than other age groups in expressing sexuality? It's hard whether at twenty or sixty to establish the trust beach head, but is our age an additional impediment? Asking one Passion Parties consultant about the age thing, she said that age was not the determinant in successful parties. At least in her neck of the woods (which happens to be the most un-woods-like NYC), socio-economics and race play a greater role, with upper class white women being the least receptive--regardless of age.

We Boomer women came of age in pretty enlightened times (at least on the younger end of the boomer cohort); Women's Lib, 'drugs, sex, and rock and roll,' 'make love not war.' Chances are we took some of that freedom into our later intimate relationships. Isn't it possible that most of us have a pretty good idea who we are by now and won't necessarily be shy about asking for what we want?

Passion Parties sound like a lot of fun---another chance to hang out with friends and maybe buy one of those 'edibles, sensual touch, lingerie, and passion toys.' But I'd prefer not to be singled out as needing extra help in the sex classroom because I'm old.